Toxic People are Slow Poison: How to Find Toxic People in Your Life & Deal With Them Sensibly and Intelligently

Preface to the Article

After learning about my own behaviour and others, I have realised one thing; anyone can mould your behaviour if you don't know what your true character is and now think what if you don't know about yourself then it can be a dangerous threat to your life.

It's very significant to know your character first, so that you absorb the right emotions and encounter the right people to make your life a happy journey & not a place of everyone else's expectations and emotions.

You can fight with anyone but it really takes a great mind to deal with such toxic people. Toxicity, it's a trait of some people who make you feel guilty and play the victim game that you are harming them instead of they are harming you.

To deal with them, you don't need an anxious, stressed or angry mind but a sensible mind to deal with them intelligently because toxic people are very dangerous and they can make you play the game you don't want to get indulged in.

Such toxic people know your every weakness and then they make your weakness the strength of the part of their life.

We all have experienced such people and to get rid of them, we try to make a distance but sometimes, it doesn't work because it can be your friend, family member or your life partner. If you are entering into any type of relationship, the first thing you should expect is a calm time. If you always feel uncomfortable with someone, then you can't go for too long.

• Toxic people are hard to discover because such people are very well aware of your character and then they play really well to bring out your worst.

Let's reveal some of the secrets that will help you to find toxic people and then we will talk about how you can deal with such people in a sensible manner:

1. Toxic People Always Make You Feel Guilty and Play Victim Game

Uncomfortable talk is the part of any relationship but it doesn't mean we try to take advantage of someone else's weakness. Trust isn't always broken when we really do it but sometimes, some people do it silently by making you feel guilty of everything they know about you.

Trust and character make you reveal your every side to some people but that doesn't mean, they can use it against you. Toxic people always try to make you feel less by forcing great pressure on what you don't have instead of making you feel good about it.

Emotions can be manipulated and that's why toxic people play a very long game. We all are wrong somewhere and experiencing life, sometimes good or bad and we reveal our dark side to the only good people because they don't use it against us.

• Toxic people take advantage of your problems and then make you feel guilty of what you don't have or targeting your good side in an ugly way.

Even if you still allow to explain and stop them, they play victim game of how you are blaming them with non sense and at last you are already in their discussion and play because they provoked your bad side and it's true, most people lost their emotions when someone reveal their bad side. There's always a way to reveal something sensitive.

• Your scars are a way to embrace good change & not a way to take someone else's advantage.

2. Toxic People Urge You to Participate in Unnecessary Dramas and Chaos

If you want to find peace with everyone, you will end up losing your life peace. It's the weakness of humans to get angry when they learn, they don't have control over you. Toxic people always want to make everything in control than to have some liberty with right events. They want everything to go through them, so they can participate very well.

• Anyone can love you but it's significant to know, loving someone doesn't make you have any right on someone.

Everyone has a life, so, basically it's a right to live life in our own ways until we are doing it right and not harming anyone.

Toxic people always urge you to participate in their disturbance and chaos and then they beat you with their toxicity when they bring you down on their level. It really needs a sensible and calm mind to deal with such people.

In India, most fights are happening because such toxic people make your character just similar to you then you are destroyed. They are even more dangerous than your enemies.

• Toxic people are really the sweet slow poison of your life.

3. Toxic People Make You Lose Your Character

I feel, we don't get angry when we want to but most time we are aroused by people who have control over us. If anyone can make you angry then everyone can make you because after that you aren't deriving your life by your character but the absorbed toxic traits of such people.

People around us are making us and really we have their most influence and in between there are some people who bring out our bad attributes and anger to make us lose of our true character.

• Your character isn't how you are affected by someone but how you really want to.

Most people derive their character from the situations they experience but not by knowing what they really are.

4. Toxic People are Very Controllable

It may be noted that, control isn't always a good or bad thing but more of it can make it good or bad. Too much control and less control both are harmful. If you think you are bound to someone just because you are married then you are living the lies of your life.

No one has the right to control us every time. Humans can't live a great life when they always feel like someone is controlling them even if they do the same thing with no control.

Toxic people always want to feel very much significant and for that, they need control of everything. Sometimes it can be the head of the family who is earning well but isn't aware of the family's needs and liberty. Even parenting has become an issue these days because most parents want to control their child in the most aggressive way and in that process, they lose the liberty to make their child character in a good form. Even if he's the most loving person of your life, we don't own the right to take his life decisions always. Toxic people want everything in the way they want instead of knowing that the world is different and a few things need to be in the way as they are going.

5. Energy and Vibes Don't Lie, No Matter What They Say

If you are feeling uncomfortable with someone silently, it may be that someone is making you uncomfortable.

Manipulations aren't always about breaking trust but can be some silent toxic traits. If someone is making you feel very good when they are around, then they really have something, some positive energy and vibes for you that are getting transferred to you and then even every second with them make you feel happy but if someone is making you feel miserable silently, them something is really wrong. It can be your family member or friends.

• A good life is really lead by good people who have true intentions. Toxic people make you feel confused with their energies, so you leave the capability to take a decision on whether to keep or leave them.

It's really astounding to know, most toxic people don't know about their toxicity because they are so much indulged in their cursing factors that they forget, they are making someone else's life a place of hell or may be they don't want to absorb the fact that they are toxic and understanding how they can correct their attitude and attributes.

Now, the most significant question, how you can deal with such toxic people who only aim to make you feel sad, stressed and miserable:

1. Don't Become the Part of Their Conversation

It's better to leave toxic people immediately even without to worry about any emotional connection and if you can't leave it, minimise the conversation to only essential because after that you will find, they are becoming more irritated and stressed because such people transfer their stress to other people and then they feel good.

• Don't become the part of their conversation and minimise the talk, so they don't find opportunities to make you feel guilty or beat you up with their toxicity.

2. Don't Fall For Their Traps

Most toxic people have the trait to indulge others into their problems and then they release stress by arousing your anger. They throw the trap where people listen to them for too long and when you repel, they release stress by shouting, or saying curse words to you. This is extremely common among people.

You may encounter such people very easily who invite you into their problems, then ask for suggestions and somehow they play such cards that may feel you irritated and at the end, they arouse your stress and anger.

Such toxic people find other people who can help them to release stress and in that process, an innocent person ends up losing his peace. Don't fall for their traps.

3. Always Stay Calm in Front of Toxic people

Being calm is the best superpower. If you always try to beat people with the same reactions and thoughts, then you will end up being an irritated and stressed personality. Whatever the situation is, always stay calm. Even if you want to stay away from such toxic people, they will always find a way to get connected with you. Such people suck out good energy from others and give them stress and that's what we call negative energy.

• We don't always need people to stay energetic but we have to be the powerhouse of energy. I really stay from such people who suck out energy from others.

When you are calm, you allow yourself to think clearly, even in any situation of life. Be calm and you will find, a rare people can steal your peace.

4. Deal with Toxic People Psychologically, Sensibly and Intelligently

It's significant to know, if you always try to beat people with the level of their dealing, you will end up losing your own good traits and character too. You shouldn't become what you are facing but what you really want to be. Always try to deal with situations sensibly, with a level of intelligence to know about what is right and wrong and even psychologically to know how to deal with toxic people who also know better negative psychology.

Toxic people are psychological too but they use it against others even unknowingly.

Every time you try to find words, anger, cheating and tit for tat to such persons, you will end up deteriorating your own character and that's what a toxic person wants. They want you to become like them. It's very contingent. Remember that.

5. Focus on Your Lovable Things

It's very significant to understand, the more time you give to worrying about your problems and toxic people, the more mind space these things will capture of your life and end up making your life more stressed and anxious. I always feel, if you focus on lovable things, your problems will become very irrelevant and small.

When we give too much space to problems then we only see problems and attract more problems like that.

Some problems can't be eliminated, but you can eliminate it by not giving time and space in your life. Focus on the good things in life and everything useless problems will automatically disappear from your life.

The more you focus on good things, the less time you will have for toxicity. Always remember, there's no limit for happiness in our lives. The more you seek, the more intensity of happiness and peace you will get.